5 years ago I joked that because Jonah was born on Valentine’s Day that I was off the hook forever, the truth is though… a day doesn’t go by that I don’t look at this woman and strive to be the best version of myself for her.
Some days I fail, others I can look back on and smile from the memories I hold close.
One of those moments was her laboring naturally for almost 2 days with Jonah 5 years ago to this day.
I remember how long we tried for him. Tarah was feeling defeated, I was feeling helpless and the deployments throughout were not helping. I’ll never forget when that positive test showed up.
She told me how badly she wanted to go natural this time with The Bradley method. After reading a bunch of books, I realized that she needed me a lot for support to make it happen.
I married a tough cookie. In fact, she acts so tough at times, I would forget she needed me.
As I watched her breath through every contraction, push without crying and bring yet again another life into this world… I was reminded how strong she was. How relentless she was. When she told me she could have never done it without me, those are words I’ll never forget.
On Valentine’s Day every year I’m reminded to show up MORE. To be the best version of myself every day. To strive to be the father to our children that my wife always felt a void from hers.
We have a sign by our bedroom door that reads “It’s not about finding the right person, it’s about BEING the right person!”
I know for some Valentine’s Day is about expressing your love however for me it’s a great reminder to work on myself every day for those that I DO love.
They deserve the best.